Gay Slang
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artiste – a gay man who excels at fellatio
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auntie – an older, often effeminate and gossipy gay man
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bathsheba – a gay man who frequents gay bathhouses
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boykisser
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chicken – a youthful gay man
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chubby chaser – a man who seeks overweight males
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daddy – a typically older gay man
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flit
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flower – a typically effeminate gay man
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friend of Dorothy – a gay person. Historically used as a shibboleth to identify other LGBT people.Likely a reference to Judy Garland, who portrayed Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz (1939) and had a large gay fan-base
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gaysian – a gay Asian
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light in the loafers / light in the pants / light in the fedora
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punk – a smaller, younger gay man who, in prison settings, is forced into a submissive role and used for the older inmate's sexual pleasure.
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queen – a flamboyant or effeminate gay man. Alternatively, short for drag queen
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bean queen (also taco queen or Salsa queen), gay man attracted to Hispanic men
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brownie queen – obsolete slang for gay man interested in anal sex (used by men who disliked anal sex)
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chicken queen – an older gay man interested in younger or younger appearing men
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grey queen – a gay person who works in financial services; grey flannel suits)
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potato queen – a gay Asian man attracted mainly to white men
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rice queen – a gay man attracted mainly to East Asian men
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twink − a youthful, flamboyant gay man with a slim physique
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Clone – a San Francisco or New York Greenwich Village denizen with exaggerated macho behavior and appearance (US)
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closeted – keeping one's sexuality or gender identity a secret from others
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cocksucker – a person who practices fellatio, usually a gay male
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come out (of the closet) – to admit or publicly acknowledge oneself as non-heterosexual/non-cisgender
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cottaging – having or seeking anonymous gay sex in a public toilet, or 'cottage' (UK)
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cruising – seeking a casual gay sex encounter (historically from ancient Rome)
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down-low – homosexual or bisexual activity, kept secret, by men who have sex with men (US)
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baby butch – a young, boyish lesbian
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baby dyke – a young or recently out lesbian
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bambi lesbian – a lesbian who prefers cuddles, hugs, kisses, and other affectionate and sensual non-sexual acts over sexual acts
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bean flicker – Likening the clitoris to a bean
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bluff – butch fluff
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boi – a boyish lesbian (UK)
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boydyke – a lesbian with male presentation
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bull dyke – a masculine lesbian, as opposed to a baby butch or dinky dyke (UK (somewhat archaic), US)
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butch – a masculine lesbian
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long-haired butch (LHB) – a butch with long hair
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carpet muncher (or "rug muncher")
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dyke ("bull dyke", "bull dagger", alternatively "bulldagger", "bulldicker"from 1920s black American slang. A slur reclaimed by women who are attracted to women in the 1950s
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diesel dyke
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drag dyke
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Lesbian Slang
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dykon – portmanteau of dyke + icon. A celebrity woman who is seen as an icon by lesbians; may or may not be a lesbian herself
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fluff – femme
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gouine (in French)
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hasbian / has-bian – a woman who previously identified as lesbian but now identifies as heterosexual or bisexual.
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kiki – a term used primarily from the 1940s until the 1960s to indicate a lesbian who was not butch or femme and did not have a preference for either butch or femme partners
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kitty puncher / pussy puncher – with both "kitty" and "pussy" referring to a woman's vulva/vagina, and "puncher" as a variation on various derogatory terms for gay men, such as "donut puncher"
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four year lesbian - see lesbian until graduation
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lesbian until graduation (LUG) – a young woman who is assumed to be temporarily experimenting with same-sex behavior, but will ultimately adopt a heterosexual identity
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lipstick lesbian – a lesbian/bisexual woman who displays historically feminine attributes such as wearing make-up, dresses, and high heels
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muff-diver – a lesbian
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pillow princess – a lesbian who likes to receive sexual stimulation, rather than giving it (to bottom)
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soft butch – an androgynous lesbian, in between femme and butch
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stem, stemme – someone whose gender expression falls somewhere between a stud and a femme
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stone butch – a very masculine lesbian, or a butch lesbian who does not receive touch during intercourse, only giving (US)
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stud – a black butch
Bi/Pan Slang
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AC/DC – reference to "swinging both ways" (US)
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ambisextrous – euphemism for bisexual, derived from ambidextrous
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bicon -portmanteau of bisexual + icon. Used to refer to a bisexual celebrity
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byke – a bisexual dyke
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Gillette Blade – a 1950s era term for bisexual women, whose sexuality "cuts both ways"
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Horatian – in Lord Byron's circle at Cambridge, a code word for "bisexual", more specifically bisexual men.
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unicorn – a bisexual, usually a woman, who desires multiple partners and is willing to join an existing couple and sexually satisfy both members of the couple.So-named because bisexuals willing to enter such an arrangement are considered rare or non-existent, while couples seeking such a partner ("unicorn hunters") are common.
Transgender/Non-Binary Slang
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baby trans – a trans person who recently came out of the closet. The term is a noun
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boymoder – a transgender woman or girl who socially presents in a masculine gender role, typically in places where transgender individuals are discriminated against, or due to not being out as transgender. The equivalent for a trans guy is 'girlmoder'. Many who use this term for themselves or others do not see the individual as a boy, necessarily. Rather, it is a term referring to the public presentation of being a boy/man, regardless of other factors.
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Copenhagen capon – a transsexual; someone who has undergone sex reassignment surgery. The term alludes to Christine Jorgensen, a trans woman who underwent sex reassignment surgery in Copenhagen in the 1950s.
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diamoric – a term for attractions and relationships involving at least one non-binary individual
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egg – a transgender person who has not yet realized they are trans; used by transgender people when aspects of one's personality or behavior remind them of gender-related aspects of themselves before they realized they were trans. As such, the realization that one is trans is referred to as one's "egg cracking". This may also be used to refer to someone who is questioning their gender but later expresses themself to be cisgender. Although, this seems to be of less common use. Most "egg" related statements either refer to someone's past self, before they would describe themself as transgender. Or, someone believed to be trans, but not open, regardless of whether they say they are at the time. However, this is a risky social move, as, that someone could later still describe themself as cis, be in the closet, or have a nonbinary identity that is neither considered necessarily cis nor trans to them. Or the label of "trans" is not to their liking or has too many connotations attached to it they dislike.
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enbian or NBLNB (also NLN) – a term for attraction and relationship between non-binary people
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enby – a non-binary person. Derived from the abbreviation NB.
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girlmoder – a trans guy who socially presents in a feminine gender role, typically in places where transgender individuals are discriminated against, or due to not being out as transgender. The equivalent for a trans girl is 'boymoder'
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lady boy – English translation of kathoey, similar or equivalent to transgender woman, but may refer to feminine gay men or intersex people
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M2B – male to butch, alluding male-to-female (MtF, also called M2F)
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repressor – a person who is fighting the wish to change their gender expression
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sapatrans or sapatrava (portmanteau of sapatão + trans) – a term used in Brazil for trans lesbians and lesbian travestis
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t-girl – a trans woman (short for "trans girl"). It is often derogatory, due to its association with transgender pornography
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t-boy / t-guy – a trans man (short for "trans boy" and "trans guy")
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tranarchist – a transgender anarchist
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transbian (portmanteau of trans + lesbian) – a transgender lesbian. See also Trans woman § Sexuality.
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transfag – a transgender gay man
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tryke – trans dyke
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tuck - any attempt to hide the appearance of a penis bulge. It is often recommended to use tight clothing and not to use tape or other sticky or sharp objects due to safety concerns.
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clock – to recognize someone as being transgender
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deadname – as a noun, a transgender person's birth name. As a verb, to refer to someone by their deadname.The etymologically identical term necronym is also sometimes used with the same meaning
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girldick – a transfeminine person's penis, especially one changed by hormone use. Also known as gick, girlcock, or gock
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malefail – to be gendered as feminine when trying to present in a masculine gender role
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packing – the act of wearing padding or a phallic object to present the appearance of a penis
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passing – to be perceived as a gender one is attempting to pass as. Usually in relation to trans people
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skoliosexual – to describe attraction to non-binary people
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stealth – passing to the extent that most people can't tell that you are trans
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TERF – acronym for "trans-exclusionary radical feminist"; a feminist whose advocacy excludes or opposes the rights of trans people. It also, more infrequently, used to refer to someone hostile to transgender people.
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TME or TMA/TMC – transmisogyny-exempt or transmisogyny-affected/confined, ascribing those who are, or not, target of transphobia directed at trans women
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transgenderism – a term used by anti-trans extremists seeking to dehumanize transgender people by saying that being transgender is an ideology rather than an identity. In the past (the mid to late 20th century), the term was used non-derogatorily to refer to being transgender, though this meaning has become obsolete
Asexual/Intersex Slang
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ace – short for asexual
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aro – short for aromantic
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ace of spades – an aromantic asexual
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ace of hearts – a romantic asexual
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ace of diamond – a demiromantic demisexual[citation needed]
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ace of clubs – a greyromantic greysexual[citation needed]
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SAM – split attraction model – a model that sexual and romantic orientation can be split, often used within the aromantic and asexual community
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queerplatonic relationship – committed intimate relationships which are not romantic nor (necessarily) sexual in nature
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zucchini – queerplatonic partner
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futanari (ふたなり, "to be of two kinds", seldom: 二形, 双形, lit. "dual form") – Japanese word for hermaphroditism, which is also used in a broader sense for androgyny. The term is also heavily associated with a genre of hentai defined by sexualization of characters simultaneously possessing breasts, a penis and a vulva, and has gained a negative connotation for the sexual connotations
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hermie – an androgynous or intersex person, though the term is often considered a slur.
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altersex – a term describing people who alter their sex, such as through hormone replacement therapy or gender-affirming surgery, who were not born intersex. This term is especially used in the case of people who do not describe their sex as male or female due to their medical transition, without appropriating intersex terminology. Considered derogatory if used to deny the validity of someone's medical transition to male or female
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Salmacian – named after Salmacis, standing for someone who acquires, or wishes to acquire, mixed genitalia
A Message from the Founder
My journey of acceptance as a queer person began in my 20s. I come from a small town in a rural state and felt disconnected from other LGBTQAI+ people who had accepted themselves at an earlier age or who grew up in places where queer communities were present. So this is for all the baby gays, curious ally's, or elder gays.
The intense religious upbring many queer people face can be seen in many different ways. In my case my name (Cecilia) comes from the Catholic saint of music. My mother is a musician and wanted to give both my older sister and I names that correlated with music or art. Fun Fact! Saint Cecilia was killed on November 22 leding to that day being the day of Saint Cecilia. I say it is a fun fact because that is my birthday.
My older sister is my inspiration in creating this website. She knew from a young age that she only liked girls and she was true to herself even when the church we grew up in was against LGBTQAI+. Watching her resilience in the face of persecution from our parents as they put her into conversion therapy at our church was scary. Because of her strength, I felt brave enough to accept the inevitable truth that I was pansexual in college. I dedicate this website to Callie the best lesbian I've ever known. <3
Cecilia Cason
Woodward, Oklahoma